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Menopause and the three gatekeepers of power.

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In Yoga, the presiding Deva of this time is Bagalmukhi.


(A Deva is a divine spirit; to me it is a form of energy with a unique feeling and power).


In images,  you see that Bagalamukhi  holds a noose to call you back inwards to your self and a cosh to stun you into inner silence! The more you struggle to get away from this passage, the tighter her hold becomes.   She who holds the chattering tongue of the inner demons, is going to be your archetypal overseer for the next few years. Relax, she means well!

Once you know what she is there for, and how to play and live with her, struggles can subside somewhat. She is not unkind  but she is stern. The more you struggle to ‘do’ your old self, waste energy in idle chatter and keep old dramas alive, the more she will make her presence felt and usually, by your feeling exhausted or not being able to escape the dramas.

But  you can choose to learn, through Yogic enquiry as well as other paths and forms of inner exploration, how exciting it is  to dig deep into your inner world.  You will recover the gems of your deepest self,  and you won’t want to skip this part of your life, or numb it out of consciousness, I promise you.

And I also must  introduce you to Chiron, who is waiting in the wings until you are around 50 years of age. At this point, The Centaur, Chiron, will present you with a gateway opportunity to find and release your core soul wounding freeing you up to be more of who you were born to be.


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Then there’s the whole technology of the Kundalini (s0metimes called ‘Serpent” energy)  and its interaction with your etheric body systems. You need to know how to clear your energy field and your psyche and keep it that way. Grounding methods  and the pelvic floor organs are tools you simply have to have working for you,  while you embody these powerful influxes of energy.

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And of course, you’ll want to deal effectively with anger, grief and resentment so you don’t carry old injuries forward into the next phase of life. Natural menopause really demands you clear all that no longer serves  you so it doesn’t lurk in the basement of your psyche – and if it does, you know how to clear it out.


Menopause is physical – yes – and it is also a super sensitive time for life change supported by a whole, unspoken of, technology of its own. Am I going to get a mainstream doctor to agree with me? I doubt it. But nevertheless, this ancient understanding and esoteric knowledge still exist – and they are sorely needed by women so they can birth their wisdom and power anew and live life fully again.[/av_textblock]


Let’s talk about how working with me could  be the perfect solution to giving you a much better experience of menopause – and a sparkling, sensually passionate future! Just book a  ‘chat slot’ in my calendar – or contact me via email: debs@debsdevries.com

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Menopause and sleep – or lack of it!

Menopause and sleep – or in reality, menopause and  not sleep.

Disturbed, sweaty nights that are often more like a nightmare than a dream. Not only does it make day life tough – it can bring a sense of tension ahead of bedtime. “How many hours will I get tonight before I wake in a pool of sweat?”. It pays to take steps to design a sleep ‘routine’ that works for you as best you can.


I also believe that disturbed sleep is a sign of our subconscious being over active. Night time should be a time when the whole physical/emotional body system settles and the psyche opens to receive new information, or clear old and unwanted patterns. Sometimes this is in the form of dreams, or we just wake with a new understanding around something. Keeping a journal of the times when you wake and what – if you remember it – you found yourself thinking (all those things buzzing around in your head) may not get you more sleep initially, but it may calm things down and help you to see what is on your mind that you can’t ‘see’ in the daytime.

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Menopause, sexuality and sensuality.

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Menopause seems to be shackled, at least conceptually, to a long list of (very real) woes and laments. I get that. I had those experiences too. Sexuality seems to be the least highlighted but often, one of the most missed parts of a woman’s life experiences during this time.


But I do believe there is a vision – a powerful one –  and  better, healthier framework for menopause,  that is rarely shared. It’s not a surprise that it’s almost a secret. Where, in any of my  – or your – school biology lessons,  did womens’ bodies get a mention beyond ‘reproduction’. Menopause wasn’t important.  It wasn’t even visible! Do you think I’d be  I be getting too ‘over the top’ if I assert that this was, at least in part, because the female gender wasn’t  very important anyway and once female ‘productive’ years had finished, who would waste time writing about menopause?


Sexuality is always a defining aspect of humanity. And for most women, it has taken a very long time (and it’s a work in progress) to claim it for our gender as a multi-dimensional aspect of our lives (I mean, we ‘have sex’ for reasons other than procreation or being ‘good partners’). Sexuality, in this context  has purpose, pay-off – an end result. Making babies: feeling bliss and pleasure (sometimes!): being intimate: making money: staying safe: being dutiful: trying to ‘grow up’:  pleasing someone else: having to bow to someone else’s needs – perhaps even being forced to.  Being a victim in war, peace or  in the supposed safety of your own home because of someone else’s uncontrolled needs.  All, some or none of these affect most women.


Menopause brings with it the opportunity to withdraw from active sexuality for a while. It offers, through what I call it’s ‘hidden technology’, a  precious time to go inward. It’s a time to  protect and save your energy for inner work (physical and emotional) so that when the primal force returns (your Kundalini flows powerfully again, in Yogic terms) you are more connected – not  less.


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But this  new cycle  of life  is more about sensuality than sexuality.  It is about how you feel, with or without sexual activity,  a partner, or sexual stimulation that is external.  Your newly enhanced system is coded for sensuality. Sensuality for some, is bliss experienced simply from standing in a field and having the sound of a bird’s song pierce your skin and heart so that you smile and cry. It’s the feeling of formerly forbidden pleasure waves that convulse you as you stroke the velvet patch on a horse’s muzzle, the satin of a cat’s fur or run your hands over the cool smoothness of marble. The sun on your back can generate peaks of pleasure and dreams, dancing and dining can take you to some very ecstatic places.

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This is one of the great and unsung rewards of riding the peri menopause waves with knowledge. Your central nervous system can become more powerful and more sensitive, so that your feelings, sensations and experiences are translated in ever-more exquisite ways. With the ‘right’ partner, sexual encounters deepen and transform your body into a palace of pure pleasure. But guess what? You don’t need a partner, you just need to keep deepening your own practices of connection. You are your partner: you are, ultimately, your beloved.


My top practices are still Hatha Yoga with some Tantric practice: mindful eating, meditation, walking and self-care (and I don’t mean I do this 100% but I do keep my awareness around the topics).I run the high frequency energies of Transference Healing ™ every day and that one has probably been my life saver.


I choose words and use them with care: I intend to feel all my feelings deeply and working ‘with’ them and not against them. I love being in nature in all her moods. And  I practice gratitude.

Practice it until it’s as natural as breathing. Gratitude for everything will open your heart (and it contains it’s own special cells, ‘sensory neurites’ which are like brain cells) and help your energy systems to calibrate to the powerful, indescribable pulses of joy which literally ripple through the grid of our planet all the time.

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My vision is that menopause gets the balanced framework and press it deserves. Women have felt (and allowed themselves to feel) undervalued, cheated and overlooked for too long. Nature has a treat in store for us, at least, that is my belief, but working with the natural forces, opening heart and  mind and getting information, support and knowledge are, as in everything else, key.


Don’t short change yourself or your families, colleagues or society. Learn the rites of this passage and reap the amazing rewards! I offer retreats, mentoring that includes energy work and of course, there is my book, ‘ Menopause Magic “which I had entirely forgotten about until I started this article! Now I can’t blame that on peri menopause. I’m 61!



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The four levels of Perimenopause & why you need to understand them all.

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Here is a short radio show for you to listen to. I  recorded it for Silver Tent radio, and in it, I explain my view on the four levels of perimenopause and why you really do need to understand them all.






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What type of menopause change agent are you?

So – what type of menopause ‘change’ agent are you?


It helps to know when you are setting out on this journey.

First of all, ask yourself – why is menopause often  mysteriously and rather secretly, referred to as “the change?”

Having been through it, I know why.

It literally caused me to change a lot of things in my life. And I am very happy that I did.

My  5R Sweat Reduction programme is also a mini ‘change’ programme. It’s a way of finding out what doesn’t work for you so you can make changes that will support you. Night sweats are often a real sign that your body is in perimenopause and make life very, very tiring and difficult.

But what kind of ‘change’ agent are you? Depending on your ‘type’ you’ll find that managing change is either a breeze – a bore – or just hopelessly frustrating.

Check it out – which  one are you? Or are you a combination of more than one? Read more

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Menopause. A mid life crisis into pain and power?

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What do you think triggers a mid-life crisis? Is it just a natural part of the menopause process? Maybe it’s a secret fear of being on the downward slope to eternity? Perhaps it’s money worries? Or loss of purpose, role, looks – and/or divorce?

These are not really the triggers. These are the potential effects of something much more subtle. The rumblings of this energy will have been felt before the earthquake happens.

chiron, menopause, mid life crisis, One of the ‘lost priestess/woman wisdom teachings’ that I have resurrected is that of the connection between mid life menopause crisis and the energy of  Chiron. Chiron was and is known in mythology as The Wounded Healer. This little planet will return to its station in your natal chart to mark the 50 or so years since your birth. It does so to  open up the opportunity for you to do some deep work and transformation.

It just so happens that, as I write, tomorrow (23 September, Equinox)  is a New Moon in Virgo with an opposition of Chiron. This means  that we have a rare and universal opportunity to see or feel the ‘wound’ and heal it. We all individually get this opportunity at mid life but  this Equinox is like having the spotlights glaring!  It’s as though we are being asked to  really ‘get’ it!

If you know what a ‘wound’ really is, and  how it has been invisible to you, you can really clear the so-called ‘blocks’. You also need to know  how this ‘wound’  shows up as a shadow issue. This element of teaching is one of the most potent, powerful offerings  in my menopause mentoring work. Because once you have grasped this ‘hidden’ power, embodied it and are ready to move on with the resulting self knowledge it brings, you are also in the position to overturn the patterns of the past. You can really  ditch the energetic ‘pull and push’ of your old stories.

It is time  to reinvent yourself.  The birthing of your new archetypal self is now in your hands. Phew. Spiritual maturity at last… and it doesn’t happen without some birthing pains! My joy is to ease them and leave you with tools that you will use every day,  well past menopause, past hot flashes, night sweats and all that comes with the physical shifts.

I like MysticMamma for my astrology insights. Here is this 2017  Autumnal Equinox’ posting from them.



Blessings and alchemical balance to you!

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Hot flashes and cold chills – what is going on with me?

So are you feeling hotter? Or feeling chills? Or both?

Hot flashes are one of the bugbears of the menopausal years – but some women will actually feel chills instead. Why do some women suffer from extremes in menopause.

First, it is important to understand how your body normally adjusts to temperature changes. You need to know the framework for this and these are the interactions between the hypothalamus, the pituitary and the adrenal glands. It’s often referred to as the “HPA axis”.

One of the tasks of the hypothalamus is to regulate body temperature. The other major task is to regulate fertility.It isn’t fully understood but it seems that one of the effects of estrogen loss is to cause the hypothalamus to get ‘confused’ and misread signals coming back from the adrenals.  Perhaps because the ovaries are not releasing hormone that used to create a positive feedback loop.

“This is an area that’s still very much under research. We cannot quite tease out what it is about estrogen that is the issue.” Professor Helen Teede- director of research at the Jean Hailes Foundation for Women’s Health in Melbourne.

What is clear though, is when the hypothalamus senses that the body temperature is too high, it sends impulses. These impulses (signals) cause blood vessels supplying the capillaries in the skin to dilate. This is called vasodilation. The increased blood flow to the surface tissues under the skin means that more heat is lost. You cool down.

When the hypothalamus senses that the body temperature is too low, the opposite happens. It sends impulses which cause blood vessels supplying the capillaries in the skin to contract. This is called vasoconstriction and it reduces the blood flow to the surface tissues under the skin. As a result, less heat is lost. You stay warm – or heat up.

Vasodilation helps the body to lose heat, while vasoconstriction helps to keep heat within the body.

However, when a woman has  hot flashes, her body perceives that the temperature is rising very quickly . Naturally, it  responds by dilating the blood vessels and causing hot sweats.

In the case of heating up, note that it’s a perception, as the body temperature is not, in fact higher. Isn’t that interesting?

Meanwhile, things you can also get checked  for are:

  • Thyroid function (and you need a test that measures T2 and not just T3) and
  • Adrenal health.

If either of these are out of balance your body will not be able to maintain average temperature and especially in perimenopause.  In my view, our ‘band of tolerance’ becomes much narrower in many areas during the change!

I also want to comment on the perception of body temperature not rising but being only perceived as rising. From a very non medical Debs de Vries/Yogic point of view, the heat that is perceived is the internal heat of uprising kundalini.

That’s why I run weekend events and mentor women. I   teach women how to work with this  natural kundalini force. However, the perception (that the temperature is rising) still causes the HPA axis to activate and overwork to balance your body temperature. You still get hot flashes, but it is possible to  make some changes

There’s a great video that helps explain the HPA axis here.


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Could yoga help your menopause symptoms?

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Have you noticed the upsurge of images in the press and social media, showing lithe beings in patterned Lycra performing impossible looking Yoga poses?  Unless you already practice Yoga then it’s very likely you haven’t thought of Yoga as a helpful complementary part of your peri and post menopause health regime.

It’s a fact that Yoga has a lot to offer mid and later life women. But you do need to know which aspects of it are likely to help and which aren’t. Yoga is much more that just physically demanding poses. At its core it’s a range of practices – some very simple – (called Asana) and breath techniques (Pranayama). They help to  balance mind and body.

During peri menopause many women feel much more stressed, tired and vulnerable than usual. Hot flashes, night sweats, aches, pains and emotional swings are often part of the menopause experience.

In addition, blood pressure can rise, memory become patchy and thinking downright ‘fuzzy’.

Yoga offers relief for increased stress, tiredness and blood pressure issues, particularly through the use of ‘Yin’ style poses. In this style there is no fast movement or complexity. The body is well supported (literally, by blankets, bolsters and blocks) in movements which are slow and easy. There is plenty of time for deep relaxation. Most movement is done either sitting or lying down.

Muscles and tendons are gently stretched without pulling or bouncing.  This  in turn helps joints to release and lubricate as well as releasing tension from muscle tissues. You’ll have heard that  when we are stressed we are often said to be in “flight or fight (or freeze) mode”.  The body prepares for this by increasing production of the stress hormone cortisol (and other hormones) and redirecting blood away from digestion and the reproductive organs. This continues for  as long as the stress inducing threat – or perceived threat – is present in the mind of the individual.

Scientists have known for years that elevated cortisol levels interfere with learning and memory, lowers immune function and bone density, increases weight gain, blood pressure, cholesterol, heart disease. So one of the positive aspects of a quiet – or Yin style – of Yoga practice is that it  allows the PNS (the part of the autonomic nervous system that helps us into calm states of being) to be strengthened.

Neuropsychologist and meditation teacher Rick Hanson says the PNS (parasympathetic nervous system) and the SNS (sympathetic nervous system) are connected like a seesaw; when one goes up, the other one goes down.

If your SNS constantly jumps into action throughout the day, your body will produce more stress hormones, your heart will work harder and you may even not tune into your need to rest or eat properly. This will tend to create an imbalance. By activating the PNS, (think ‘P in PNS for peace and ‘S’ in SNS for stress) yoga strengthens its circuitry and brings balance to the’ seesaw.’

Nutritional anthropologist Linda Knittel describes a study conducted by Thomas Jefferson Medical College in Philadelphia and the Yoga Research Society. When researchers measured the cortisol levels of participants both before and after a yoga class, they discovered a significant decrease after the class.

If you’re interested in trying a class, then talk to a range of teachers before you attend and ask about their style of teaching. Find out whether they have had any particular education in helping women in and after menopause and which of their classes would suit you best. Take a trial session. Proper instruction is necessary to safeguard your health, so please find a qualified teacher with the right experience level for your needs.

You should be asked about your health history, any current medication and your goals for practicing Yoga. Here are a few ideas of Yoga practices that may help you:-

  • For disturbed sleep try: Yin Yoga style: Yoga Nidra (a very deep relaxation and a Pranayama (breathing) practice called Nadi Sodhana (alternate nostril breathing) which induces a sense of calm and is said to balance the brain.
  • For Cognitive improvements: Deep Yogic breathing and slow balancing poses that require focus. Deep breathing brings more oxygen to the body and brain and exhaling removes toxins; it could help with ‘brain fog’ as may poses that support cleansing liver and kidneys. Also, try meditation techniques with eyes open – say meditating on a candle flame or other object. This helps discipline the mind to rest on one thing.
  • Osteoporosis care –  weight bearing postures can help bones stay strong by ‘stressing’ them. Osteoporosis is a real hazard after menopause and women need to do weight bearing exercise. Yoga has many  poses that do this. For example: Downward and upward facing dog pose: Tadasana: Plank: Warrior: Sun Salutations and balances such as Tree.
  • Blood Pressure. 3 part yogic breathing using the diaphragm correctly (it’s the second biggest muscle of respiration) helps to bring more oxygen into the body while at the same time sending a calming signal (sometimes known as “the relaxation response”) to the brain.
  • When the heart doesn’t have to work so hard to pump blood to provide oxygen to cells it can slow down and recover. Hot flushes. Two breathing practices (Pranayama) are particularly well known for their cooling properties Sithali and Sitkari are said to lower body temperature and the practice of Yoga Nidra (a deep relaxation where you are very relaxed but not asleep) has been found by some women to alleviate flushes.

Lastly, do check with your GP or health care provider before you start any new form of exercise, to ensure you are fit to practice. One of the central tenets of the philosophy in which Yoga exists is called ‘ahimsa’ or ‘non harming’. Find what works best for you and don’t do anything that makes you feel unwell, hurts or otherwise causes you pain or major discomfort.

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Reclaiming Menopause. A woman’s rite.

Menopause, along with menstruation, pregnancy and childbirth, is one of the natural cycles and events in a woman’s life.   These cycles and passages mirror the innate nature of our Universe to expand and change. 

However, although this century has seen some positive changes in attitudes to menstruation, pregnancy and childbirth, it’s not always so with menopause. Prevailing Western attitudes to menopause remain, in general, ones of mistrust, misunderstanding and exasperation. 

The Greeks wrote a little about treatment of menopausal symptoms. But as so few women lived until their menses ceased, and were considered of low value when no longer fertile, it’s hard to find much history of early attitudes or rites around this potent passage. And it is a potent passage! All that turmoil is not random. 

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Did you know that there  are a number of pivotal – and invisible – events that impact a woman during the years of menopause, particularly from the age of 49 to 51?  These are influxes of specific types of energy, designed to help a woman develop into not just the Matriarch, but also, at a subtle level, to  be transformed. This means she can birth even more aspects of her soul’s gifts and talents.

What is happening ‘behind the scenes’ is fascinating and little spoken of or understood. Within this ‘technology of menopause’ lies a huge potential that can inspire and fire women to make necessary changes, and live with greater power and wisdom for the rest of their lives. In brief, here’s an overview of the key events.

 menopause, kundalini, During female  reproductive years, two ‘gates’ operate in the base or muladhara chakra. In Yogic terms, this is an energy center (0ne of many) that steps down higher energies into the human subtle energy system. This one I’m referring to is  the one at the base of the spine. These two ‘gates’ allow Kundalini energy to enter the chakra and then, if no  egg fertilization occurs,  the energy flows out at menstruation. If pregnancy occurs, Kundalini will help support the creation of the template of the new life.

However, as estrogen levels drop in later life, (and peri menopause begins) the ‘out’ gate closes, meaning that Kundalini cannot leave the chakra system. It’s programmed to begin its ascent up the chakra system, and therein lies one of the keys to mid-life transformation.

Another critical event is the impact of Chiron, the little planet who is symbolized by a key shape, and who holds the codes for self-healing. Chiron is depicted as a centaur in mythology; a being that combines both earthly attributes and those of ‘higher’ nature.

At some time between the ages of 48 – 51, Chiron returns to the place it was in your chart on the day of birth bringing with it the impetus to deeply review the place where you are ‘stuck’. Some refer to this as a ‘core’ or ‘soul’ wound and it is a passage into the underworld, to visit what you have been unable to see; heal it and move forward.

The opportunity presented is like opening a  portal to receive energy  from Uranus and Saturn. This in turn will assist you in creating the next highest Divine version of yourself. If you understand this and find the right support, the incoming energy really does offer life changing potential.